Here are some of the most important lesson I got from the year 2020. It has been a weird year for all of use, but hopefully we learned some useful things that we implement this year and on.
Time is ticking
We can start with "Having a limited time here on earth", it's something that we don't really consider on a day to day basis, it might pop into our minds on occasions, but we tend to forget the very next minute. But I guess if we have our mortality in mind it can motivate us to take chances, be more daring and appreciate moments more. When I think about my mortality, and that the time is ticking, it makes me realise that I really need to appreciate the experience, people, and things I have - because eventually all of them will be gone - and yes it's a sad thought, but it's the truth.
We can only do so much
We can only do so much while we're alive, so why not and do the things we actaully want to do? Another important aspect of having a limited time here. Instead of wasting our time on repetetive tasks, obeying the demands of others and all that bullshit, you might as well spend that time doing what you actaully want to do. If you want to travel, then travel. If you want to be an actor then start acting. If you want to be a professional snowboarder then get on the snow. There's always a way to do what you 'really' want to do, and this is not some wish-washy talk, there's always ways to hack the system. I've travelled for years, with very little money - and that's because I had the desire to do so.
Having some physical life aims
I tend to be pretty spiritual, but some times this means that I get a bit detached from the physical world. And because now-a-days there's a huge spiritual movement I urge people to not get caught up too much in spirituality and set some "real life" goals - goals that are materialistc/ physical. Like getting a house, making some kids, setting up a business, making more money, getting an education. Something that you can look forward too, something that can give you some vision of the future. And the reason why I say "physical" goals is because these goals are tangeble. Tangable goals can be achieved, felt, seen - and this is good because then you will have something to look forward too. Or maybe something that will give you some sort of purpose.
Friends and family are #1 priority
What matters the most in life is people, especially the ones that are close to you, whether family or friends. Those are the people that got your back, those are the people that can lift you in lonely times, those are the people who you need to care about and pay attention to. And being "their" friend or their family member doesn’t do it, you actually need to put effort into the relationships - by showing those people you care about them. How? Sending gifts, calling them, being there when they need you most, and whatever else you can do to show them you love them.
Not letting other's push you around
I think the last item on the list is to learn how to say no, and make your own decisions. If you're unable to do this, you'll end up on having a real difficult time in life, because your life won't be yours, it'll just be a culmination of the influence of others. This will also determine the amount of discipline you develop - because not only will you learn how to say no to people, you'll learn how to say no to yourself. When you want to sleep-in you'll be able to tell yourself "no, I need to get up", or when you afraid of something you'll be able to confront your fear and do it anyways. So important!
And here are a few extras
Knowing what's new
You see those older people now-a-days who don't have a clue about how to use a computer, they have no clue of what the "internet" is, they don't know how to use a smart phone. I know, it's sad, and I'm not critizising them, but I'm just saying that it's important to stay up to par with what's new, otherwise you might be left behind.
Joining Martial Arts Classes
Learn how to defend yourself, be more couragous, and develop a cool skill.
Doing something uncomfortable everyday
Talking to someone you don't know. Going somewhere that's new. Trying something that might be uncomfortable. This way you're constantly challenging your perspective
Thanks for reading everybody! I really appreciate you got this far. What are some of the lessons that you learned in 2020. Leave them below in the comments.
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